The Cost of Alone Time

Every time I meet a mom, the conversation somehow migrates into the importance of alone time.


"You should get some help." "You need to get away." "Alone time is necessary."

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I don't mean to sound like a mid-90's tween, but duh! Of course I need to be alone, not only for me, but the kid as well. However, saying it is easier than getting it.


I am a single mom of 1. I have one friend that I talk to regularly. My closest family is about 2 hours away. It's just me and the kid. Getting time alone is few and far in between, but when I get the chance it's not really enjoyable. If I'm not worried about the financial costs, I'm stressing about trying to relax knowing my time is limited. At the end of the day, I think, was that worth it?


Making It Make Cents


The cost of childcare according to singlemotherguide.com, is more than 40% of their income for center based childcare. Personally, I spend a scosh less than 40%, more like 38%. That is a lot of money each month, plus the additional if I need childcare for "me time." I take my kid to a local drop off childcare center and or 12 bucks an hour, I get some alone time. But how much alone time do I get?


The last time I used that service, I went out with my one friend to brunch, pedicures and to just hang. I think we were supposed to do something else, but you know, time.


After I dropped the kid off around 11:30 am. I drove 37 minutes to the restaurant, we left around 2:15 pm to go get pedicures. 20 minutes later, we get to the nail salon and are seated right away. An hour and some change later, the pedicures are done and I need to go get my kid because now I'm calculating the amount I have to pay when I pick him up. This is adding up and I'm doubting the decisions I've already made.


Let's recap:


​Cost of playcare

​Cost of brunch

Cost of pedicure

Total

​$100.80 (+$40 annual membership fee)

35.20

$63.25